I have a confession to make. I take selfies… a lot of them. #selfieaddict
It is wild how much flack I get for doing it… be it a fun and casual flacking or heavily weighted in judgment and opinion. There is this presumption that, just because I selfie like there is no tomorrow, I am narcissistic, insecure, and on the hunt for “like”-based increases in self esteem. Are these presumptions really the only possibility around why people take selfies?? #really?
Feeling attractive is new to me. I grew up feeling ugly, awkward, and unlikable; I certainly wasn’t beautiful or cool, whatever “cool” was at that time. Today, after a lot of self-care, fitness, and weightlifting I have come to find some confidence, and I fucking love it. I like that I can now look at myself in the mirror, or in the front-facing camera of my iphone, and like what I see. I do not poison myself, hate myself or call myself ugly anymore, nor do I wish that I were something or someone I am not. Today, I am who I am, I look how I look. I own it. I have come to love myself, and not in an overbearing I-cant-love-anyone-else kind of way… No. I love myself in a way that helps me move through my day with a jovial grace; a way that elicits comfort in conversation; a way that encourages me to continue caring for my body and treating it with kindness. #selfcare
Am I insecure because I take selfies? Or are you insecure because you can’t, don’t or won’t? #perspective
Do “likes” and Followers excite me? Yes, they do. I love that little orange notification bubble. It proves contact, an interaction with a fellow human being who is going about her or his day within the social media interspace. It tells me that this someone, somewhere else, has connected to me, if even just momentarily through a string of kilobytes, and finds something about me likeable. Is my self-esteem contingent on these “likes” and Followers?? No, but they certainly help. #like
Self expression has been part of human culture for millennia. Whether we tattoo our flesh, insert shards of bone into our ears, or weave a feather into our hair, we are taking advantage of the gift of expression. I feel privileged that I have the freedom to do so. Today’s selfie is simply another platform of expression and an unexpecting tool of self-discovery. #individuality
For me, as someone who used to hate himself, being able to post a picture of me, taken by me, and just how I like it, is an incredible feat. It is telling of my growth as an individual and it is telling of my growing confidence. It certainly isn’t symbolic of some insecure feature of my personality that needs your judgment and pity. #thatsforsure
In a recent Body Image Study, it was revealed that 65 percent of selfie takers said seeing their selfies on social media actually boosts their confidence (Dahl, Today Health, 2014). In my opinion, this is great! We need more confidence in this world, today more than ever. I like the thought that people’s confidence is being boosted by the creativity of her or his own hand. Power to you. #selfieconfidence
Instead of judging people who take selfies perhaps it is time to take a look at the reasons why you aren’t taking them. With all do respect, I think that it is time to #loveyourselfie
It is almost #selfietime, so… unapologetically, I leave you with my thoughts.
See you seeing me seeing you soon…
Chad Walters… #selfieaddict